I think it should be whoever asked the other out.

I think on a first date be it a meal or just coffee, you should go dutch. If you are lucky enough to get a second date, then the man could pay, 3rd date the woman should pay. After that it can be discussed as to who is going to pay. We woman want and strive for equality, so dont expect a man to pay for meals all the time, you cant pick and choose when you want equality, as and when it suits you. If your relationship grows and you are getting to know each other better and doing things with and for each other, then maybe 1 person can pay for the meal out all the time, as the other 1 is doing various things for them. Its all swings and roundabouts.

Seems you were hoping for sex

I think whoever asked should pay; however if its a regular thing, alternate who pays.

On a first date I always paid my share, then there are no obligations or expectations to worry about.

Go Dutch then there shouldn’t be any expectations ..... if someone invites to take you to a meal they should pay without expectations of any Thank you of a sexual nature

Just take it in turns to pay or if one has already eaten at the other's house and wants to return the compliment by eating out then they pay.

It depends if it is a 1st date & he invited you to dinner he pays .I know there are a lot of decent guys who do not expect sex for paying the bill .Some women do give the wrong vibes .If still going on a date with him sharing is acceptable.I am a bit old fashioned .

Interesting question!!! I never went on a date - when I was going out (decades ago) - it was during the Disco Era - you did not need to bring a date to go CLUBBING! Furthermore, I can cook and I keep food in my house (apartment). WHY would I go out for dinner (I can eat at my place and can order anything I want without worrying about prices)??? However, I learned a new word today (11/06/2020) - DUTCH (had to Bing it)! Besides, I learned through experiences in life (best teacher - Life) - you never make assumptions about anything - you clean up any murky areas upfront before hurt feelings (or egos) - collide (and they definitely will collide)!!!!

Equality is more important in the current economy, so women should pay their share, if they want the same respect as men.

If you have been invited out for a meal, the person issuing the invite normally pays, unless you discuss otherwise. You can always offer to pay for you own meal. (always make sure you carry enough cash to cover this option) if going out with friends frequently you can take it in turn to pick up the bill.

pay for self unless the offer is made - u can say no to sex if someone asks and then choose not to see that person again if that is their expectation and not yours

Whoever eats...lol

Traditionally the man. But today it varies. For initial dates its up to whoever calls the date to pay. But between married couples it should usually be the breadwinner.

it depends on the relationship of the couple?

ive never taken advantage but id love to be taken to dinner and not have to pay. It makes it more romantic

what if its two men or two women...or if one is feeling a bit gender flexible or trans?...or just generally confused or if both are asexual?...someone has to pay the bill Johana .. it doesn't matter who anymore...but I bet you are popular if you insist on paying for everything

It's up to the diners to decide

Paying for dinner is a personal choice of the people concerned. Going 'Dutch' avoids any other influence. Paying for dinner and expecting sex is akin to prostitution - that reflects badly on men who could perhaps consider that. We expect equality in most things so why should this be different.

All depends how much the man eats, it might turn out very costly.

Whoever invited who out

For people, I have just met, dutch for sure. Relationships are different

l think they should pay for there own dinner but once they are an item they should take turns on who pays

i think if you date a man that expects sex after paying your dating the wrong type of man,before i married and dated women,if i asked them out i paid,not once did i expect anything in return.

I believe it should be shared thereby not giving anyone any "power" or expectations

It depends who got asked out

If man pay for (date) dinner he is not entitled to sex. If lady pay for dinner she is entitled to sex.

Depends on the circumstances. It’s not a black and white issue.

I think either going Dutch if it has been discussed as for paying for both the meals yes if that been agreed upon then woman pays for it but if their was no discussion then the man pays for both . Another thing if woman hasn't told man they are going on a date and it a surprise than she should pay for both of them .also woman should not assume a guy is paying for all the dates. If a guy is nice to a woman then I couldn't see a reason why sex would be a problem also woman alot are Romantic so naturally sex would follow if their was communication ,being treat like a princess .I think woman have alot of power these days .

as i,m married my husband pays but if single i would ask to spilt then bill as most men think it,s there right to go to bed with the women

They should split the bill cost.

Either

A man was expected to pay as often he was earning far more. Times have changed and now the pay difference is not so great, so one party should pay expecting the other party will pay the next time.

It depends it changes from time to time.

If the Woman asks him to dinner she should pay and vice versa or go Dutch

Happy to pay or split the bill

If a man expects "payment" for dinner he is not a MAN. He is a sleaze.

book it to crime/ crime does not pay

If i asked a woman out for dinner,i would assume i;m paying.

If a man invites a woman to dinner he should pay but if they've been together for a while the woman (especially if her pay is equal or greater) should take the initiative to pay for both or equally pay half each if she is not as financially capable.

man always and every time, ....

To me there should be no price when it comes to sex this should be a mutual opportunity between two people . Paying for the dinner is optional between the couple dining out. Times have changed so it is difficult to say today just who should pay for the dinner there should be no deals in relation to this just a mutual feeling that either they share the cost or one or other pays for the meal, often there may be an underlying fact ie the man wants to propose to the woman

Equal.

Go Dutch, both!!

It depends. If the male is the invitee then he pays. If its a night between friends then you both pay. You are both adults, surely you can work it out between you, it's not rocket science. In my opinion if you think that the reason he has asked you out and pays is because he wants sex, THEN YOU ARE GOING OUT WITH THE WRONG PERSON.

If I had chosen the venue and issued an invitation then I was entitled to the bill, hopefully the invitee will have enjoyed both the experience and my company.

Who ever eats the most

Does it really matter. Every situation is different. People should not read into situations what does not exist. Whatever the couple are happy with is best.

Who invited who? They pay.. Decided together - Dutch

I believe the man should pay. I always did before i got married.It's my wonderful up bringing.

It really depends on the situation. Personally I'd rather do my own thing.

The man with no strings attached

No confusions in the good old days. Men were honourable and women knew that they were the backbone of the man.

Who pays for the meal ? It does not matter, just enjoy the company & the meal.

who cares, let's eat lol

If this might become a romance - the man pays!

Money is not important between love

Depends on who and what the deal is

The woman for a change

Go dutch

It depends on the situation

my husband is old school like me. he always believes the man should pay

it depends on who they are and who asked who out

The one with the deepest pockets.

Whoever asks the other out

THE MAN.

The man should pay if they did the invite or both of them can go halves if the man said so or if the woman wants to pay her half of the bill.

This question is so dated. Dinner?? COVID, nothing’s open, you have to wear a mask etc........

Whoever suggested going out to eat should be the one paying

If you ask a person out, you should pay for dinner. But some men do insist on paying and I don't see anything wrong with that.Edited 06-Nov-20 01:18am

If the guy asked the woman out then he pays and vice versa but I think the other person should maybe buy some drinks.

SEX IS GIVEN MORE FREELY THESE DAYS DINNERS CHEAPER THAN A HOOKER

I am old fashioned. The man should pay. And not expect anything!!

Whoever asked to go out for dinner in our family used to for the dinner. In the days gone with our family that was how we did this