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Childhood friends
Andrzej J15-Oct-21
Do you still keep in touch with your childhood friends? I used to be inseparable with my best friend from primary school for many years, she was even my maid of honour during my wedding ceremony. And yet, now, over the years our ways have somehow parted. Would you say your experiences are similar?
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  • Wendy Q
    Yes, one of my riding buddies from the UK. We still keep in touch via Facebook.
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    • Carolyn7 P
      The only childhood friend I really loved was killed in a car-train accident when she was 13. The pain of losing her caused me to shy away from close childhood relationships.
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      • Anna Rogers
        A very sore point with me. My best friend from school days married “up”, and cut me from her life. When the internet came along I tried to reconnect through a friend reunion platform which I found out she belonged to with no luck. So much for Beaches style friendships outside of popular culture.
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        • lulu
          Nope, social media has held us together.
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          • Priscilla R 316016
            I was too busy moving around the state to keep any friends from school. I often wonder where they are, what they are now doing, and if their childish dreams came true. Mine did in a roundabout way.
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            • Leslie D 488751
              There was four of us that was inseparable, but sadly two have passed on and the other one is a lawyer in Sydney now. True friends are few and far between today.
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              • Jasmyne M
                No I have no friends
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                • Mary M 329762
                  You can be my friend
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              • Ruth v
                No not really.
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                • Dimitri T 100433
                  Friends the saying goes "are for a reason or season"
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                  • Amber 22
                    no did not have meany hope to find more now
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                    • Catalina
                      Yes, I do...far, far away from each other, close as always.
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                      • Mariaj
                        My best friend is still my friend from Kindy/Playschool but I live in a different country now so we just can’t go and hang out anymore
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                        • Maria B 89860
                          We moved around a lot, like sometimes only stayed in a place for a couple of days or weeks so didn't really get to know anyone closely except the last place we lived at overseas and started going to school was very close with someone who was one grade up from me and we left rather suddenly and ended up here in Australia (1947) then did not meet my friend again till 1977 when went back for a visit. We wrote to each other for years but then lost touch ago a few years ago and have stopped sending Christmas Cards etc as did not hear back nor did my letters get returned undelivered.
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                          • Aisha A 379399
                            Out of sight, out of mind. That's what happened to me and my friends from school.
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                            • Cely
                              No
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                              • Melinda B 311794
                                I still stay in touch with childhood friends. My best friend is very busy with her kids, husband and career. I wasn't the sort of kid to have loads of friends, anyway, a bit odd and a loner. I try to keep in touch with the people I liked (and who liked me lol), though.
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                                • Bev
                                  No!
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                                  • Mooi
                                    It wasn't until I started work at the age of 15 years that I made a good friend. I was bullied all through school. Then I found a great job where I met my best friend and the people I worked with were fantastic. Then my dad decided we should emigrate to Australia from the UK and I left my friends and my beautiful dog behind. Don't get me wrong I mostly love Australia apart from the Government, I have been married since 1979, four wonderful daughters, four grandchildren and a greyhound who is now my best friend, companion and confidante, she never gossips.
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                                    • Melinda B 311794
                                      Ha! My dog Buddy is the same. Even if I am grumpy, he always loves me.
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                                    • MooiMelinda B 311794
                                      They truly are beautiful companions, they don't ever judge you and they know when you feel sad or grumpy and they comfort you.
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                                    • Melinda B 311794Mooi
                                      Truly divine, in my opinion. Humans don't deserve them!
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                                  • Gail B 209535
                                    I still have regular contact with a friend, I have known for 56 years.
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                                    • Frank N
                                      I catch up with one every so often
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                                      • Jenny L 591463
                                        Oh what a shame, that's quite sad. I have a friend who went overseas to live for some time and we are both 50 this year so we are catching up soon. I can't wait, we both went to school together so we have known each other for awhile and we have never lost touch. A lot of my friends got married, moved away etc etc and we have lost contact but that's life I am afraid, people seem to busy with their own lives and don't keep in touch much these days.
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                                        • Bugalugs
                                          We did but at a critical time my parents decided we should move to another country so we lost touch.
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                                          • GRAEME W 313058
                                            Sure do, even though we are spread across the country we still get together reguarly
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                                            • Paul J 94868
                                              No...
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                                              • Larry S 382961
                                                I have lost contact with most of my school friends but got a couple now on Facebook. I moved away from my old home state and now have heaps of friends here in Sydney and rest of Australia. I have some very dear friends in USA, Singapore and my wife going Filipino more there. Yes I miss my old friendships but life now is newer for me with new friends and relies in Cebu
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                                                • Colin L 88398
                                                  It all depends on what the person does now. As I do not move int he same circles as a mate from school I do not see him that much but if I did see him often it would concern me more as he is a Judge these days and it might mean I'm appearing before him and I do not work in the law so it wouldn't be good for me.
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                                                  • Phyrephly
                                                    yes, difficult people to be friends with, judges. your every word could potentially come up for question for the friend, and for the judge.
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                                                  • Colin L 88398Phyrephly
                                                    Not so much that as I've lost count of the number of times that I've been warned off by people who think he is dangerous when ihe is just a Glorified Member of the Bar which as certain obligations connected with it but overall it's not an issue. If you go and boast about doing criminal activities to every one and their dog you get what you should expect and I have threatened to apply for an AVO if he did not stop following me around though no problems with his wife and kids. There was one occasion where I appeared before him as an "Expert Witness" which caused no end of problems as the crowd who subpennied me did not put my name on the list of witnesses and they did not expect the Judge to excuse himself when he found out. Another guy I know is a surgeon who everyone knows as a guy in a suit and tie and very propper while I only see him is a Tee Shirt and stubbies with worn out thongs and the T Shirt reads "F it I'm Going Fishing" Most people are very different when they are comfortable.
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                                                • diane c QLD
                                                  i think childhood friends are wonderful. i havent kept in touch with mine as im in another country, but most have died now.
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                                                  • Carolyn H 319412
                                                    My best friend from primary school now lives just around the corner from where I am.
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                                                    • Rifat H
                                                      I think Friendship is an actual 'ship' that either drops it's anchor to settle nearby or can settle some place far away. i.e. Possible to have long distance friendship. Either way, it's the 'Togetherness' that makes it Friendship and yes, it can be quite a journey! Poem titled 'Togetherness' by Ernestine Northover. "The years roll by from girl to woman, The years roll by from boy to man, Then one of them will find the other, A 'fusion' part of God's great plan. For this Bride and Groom are on an adventure, Which will sometimes give a bumpy ride, But they will travel well the journey, As long as they stay, side by side. There's love, joy, smiles and laughter, There's happiness along life's way, We wish them a path that is calm and peaceful, As they proclaim their vows today. We wish them health along life's highway, We wish them blessings from above, We wish them God's own hand to guide them, That their life together be filled with love."
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                                                      • Jenny L 591463
                                                        Oh that's beautiful, nicely put Rifat H.
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                                                      • Priscilla R 316016
                                                        What a lovely poem!
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                                                    • Pam G 449028
                                                      Yes very similar
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                                                      • Joe B 288252
                                                        No, we moved so often that I never formed a lasting friendship in my childhood, but I have some good cronies from my work days
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                                                        • Tanya K 164105
                                                          Yep my best friend since Year 7 - friends for 42 years !!
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                                                          • dale k 247571
                                                            none
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                                                            • Sonya F 68771
                                                              Nobody
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                                                              • Mr Blobby
                                                                I had a friend who was in my class all the way from Primer 1 to Standard 4. Then his family went back to England. Years later I met up with him again in a pub in Wanganui. I still see him from time to time and we have a "catch-up"
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                                                                • JANN R
                                                                  I have lost touch with some of my friends but still keep in touch with others I went to school with its great to catch up when we can but phone calls keep us going
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                                                                  • Stephen F 84899
                                                                    I lost contact with my friends when I moved countries several years ago. Thank goodness for social media, have managed to find a few old friends
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                                                                    • Joy L 68767
                                                                      I have one friend still from when I was young. But most of my friends now are from my teenage and early 20's. We are all still in touch and meet every year or so.
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                                                                      • Igor A
                                                                        Too busy. No way to bring "Past Tense to Mind".
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                                                                        • Beverly I
                                                                          Lost touch a long time ago
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                                                                          • Asesh S
                                                                            I have kept in touch but we are in different countries so don't see each other much.
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                                                                            • Robin L 79437
                                                                              lost touch
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                                                                              • Sandra C 12043
                                                                                I still keep contact with my first friend from when I was 5, that's 73 uears ago. she was my bridesmaind. We live in different states but still visit whenever we are in either one's state. Also keep contact with a few friends from High school but on a more irregular basis. We all email occasionally.
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                                                                                • Julene P
                                                                                  My childhood friends have all gone there separate ways, a few I keep in touch with the others were nasty to me
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                                                                                  • Grommie
                                                                                    had a few, now only two left from childhood. When one's career takes one away from your country of origin for over 30 years, one tends to shed friends.
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                                                                                    • kristian s 513441
                                                                                      I don't have childhood friends when I were growing up until now.
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                                                                                      • Joanne R 561977
                                                                                        Sounds like you just told my story, exactly them same, lol
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                                                                                        • Leonie N 638126
                                                                                          I had a few high school friends, but once high school ended we lost contact, no if Facebook had been around then it would of been a lot easier to keep contact, Facebook is extremely handy.
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                                                                                          • Christina C 466456
                                                                                            Yes very similar but my friend moved overseas. We still message each other one in a blue moon though.
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                                                                                            • doug m 408074
                                                                                              All gone I'm afraid - couple of secondary school mates still around and of course uni friends mostly still alive!
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                                                                                              • Claude H
                                                                                                At my age my childhood friends have died
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                                                                                                • BLACK LIVES MATTER
                                                                                                  never had childhood friends (was dealing with childhood abuse) - became a teenager runaway - I still STAY in contact with people I met on the streets (and some of them live in foreign countries - now) - who like me - pulled themselves off the streets (without any assistance from society - aka benign neglect on society's part) - which lead to me despiting capitalism - it would not surprise me - if donald trump (since he has not been charged with any crimes against society when (or while) he was POTUS - HAHA) - will won the republican party nomination in 2024 (again) and win being POTUS - again (in capitalism ONY the rich get BREAKS and end up with childhood friends) - the rest of us TRIED not to look back at our childhood (too much pain and misery involved in our childhood)
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                                                                                                  • Sheree T
                                                                                                    No unfortunately we lost touch once we all started working and got married. Now I live in a different country and have no idea where they are.
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                                                                                                    • APB
                                                                                                      My family moved around a lot...I tried to hang onto people but in the end just gave up....new schools, new people, new friends
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                                                                                                      • Julie K 348980
                                                                                                        My “round the corner“ friend (from the age of four onwards) and I were inseparable for a long time. We lost contact when I left home to go flatting but caught up again when we were both in our mid 60s.
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                                                                                                        • Disie
                                                                                                          I do with my High school bestie
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                                                                                                          • Priscilla R 316016
                                                                                                            Lovely to hear that, Disie
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                                                                                                          • mary c
                                                                                                            Same..my two besties from Form 7- we lost touch when i moved cities but then when i became a mum too i got back in touch with both and now we chat by text and messenger most days- i am so grateful and happy to be in their lives..they don't talk to each other even though they still live in same city. I had two very very best friends when we studied together for 3 years- and sadly we didn't stay in touch. Life is funny isn't it. Not funny haha but funny how things happen and how things change.
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                                                                                                        • Linda C
                                                                                                          No my best friend was my sister. She was my maid of honour also and we travelled the world together and around Australia over the years. She has passed now and I miss her. I have other friends I started work with over 55 years ago and we keep in touch regularly by phone and if in same state try to see each other. However, as we marry, have children etc. our lives do take separate paths and we can lose touch. I guess it is up to you to reconnect and see where it goes from there.
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                                                                                                          • mary c
                                                                                                            i am very close to my 2 sisters too- one is 7 years older and one is 12 years older. They both live in diff cities to me. My eldest sis turned 70 this month and it has hit me how special she is and the reality of her getting older. i wish i lived nearer to her and realize time now is precious- especially in these insane covid times.
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                                                                                                        • Rhonda D 522615
                                                                                                          Yes. We both have moved and life gets busy.
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                                                                                                          • 'smee,SWQ!
                                                                                                            indeed, indeed!
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