Sadly I had a friend like this and she was married but still she flirted with every guy she could get her mitts on regardless if they were single or not.I think it's all about insecurity and not feeling loved,that's why they do it.

Actually i just remembered I had a good friend but she did like to flirt with our men and wear low cut tops haha..and would then say oooh your guy is cheeky or whatever. I didn't like that. Though i realize she was unhappy and liked the ego boost.

Perhaps the core principles of the ol' Club were not moral enough, so as the club-members drift into life, they easily drop their values and chase/accept every fix- no matter who it hurts or if children are involved! I just can't underscore "core values and moral principles enough"

Hmmmm that's all I got

Some people just go after what they want because they don't care about the feelings of others.

I have no idea what this convo relates to.

no idea

Because they are pathetic. This is an unforgivable and unnecessary breach of sisterly bonds.

Is it just plain old jealousy, she wants what you have.

There's no such thing as a sisters club in my opinion. Its just straight up wrong to flirt with married folk.

Is there a mens' club code??

Lack of self control

Well I must be the odd one out here. At School and through life I have had a lot of friends - but I never discussed men with them. Maybe it is different these days. The only discussing I have done of late is look out for narcissistic people - there seem to be more of them around. Do your homework I say - hence I am still single. hahaha

WOMEN SHOULD ALWAYS HAVE A SUPPORTIVE AND UNBREAKABLE SISTERLY BOND. PATHETIC IF YOU DON'T.

Those type of women think they are better than others. They are conceded, actually more insecure than you'd think, to have to be desperate for a taken man. But I think mostly they are SELFISH. SELF WORSHIPPERS WITHOUT REASON TO BE.🙄

I have never broken the code and don't like women who do but clearly they have self esteem issues and feel they have to outdo their friends. I'm no Psychologist but these women do it over and over again. You have to feel sorry for them. Having said that I don't understand why if your friend ends it with her boyfriend you can't have a relationship with him. It's over, she doesn't want him so what's the problem?

Sounds like my life, Helen! Not only that but, once they get the guy, they dump them! I think these women are insecure, and need to prove something to make them feel better about themselves. And, Jania S, this is an open forum for people looking for answers and, If you can't agree to disagree, just don't comment. Everyone has an opinion. This is mine. Maybe it's something you've done, or do, yourself that you feel you have to justify? If not, I apologize. ;-D

No idea

I think it is none of our business, and you need to stop gossiping , why not try to understand??? Glad you are not my friend

Oh Dear, Insecurity, greed etc., i guess

you know statistically 6 out of 7 dwarfs are not happy, I know has nothing to do with the topic I thought it was funny

I think its little to do with a sisters' code, and much more to do with common decency. Some very childish individuals believe, I think, that if they want it, (whatever 'it' may be), they are going to get it. Usually, these people have not grown out of the 'me, me, me' stage of childhood development. If the same happens to them, they scream blue bloody murder and say how unfair and horribly selfish others are. Strange!

Usually in the straight world 1990,and beyond the old sorority values may not exist,discipline loses hence individual 🗽liberty gets redefined..in my cab 🚕 the loose crowd ruled at their own expense..

I spent a lifetime living by the golden rules.. fobbing off the advances and only to be ..A. Relieved of my crap exe's by another's very average looking girls advances.? B. accidentally having one night with a married man whom I had absolutely no idea he was because ,he had conveniently left that factor out of our introduction. Perhaps he left his wedding band under the doormat of his family home on his way out to party? When I was informed by a friend who later found out ,I told him where to go the next time he came knocking ,,and he did. ...!. And C. Am starting to see what 'unavailable ',married men really get up to ...( or would like to since being on here. )So thank god I no longer have that heartbreak to go through of finding out I was never enough . I would never go after one of my girlfriend's partners ever .!So that is strictly off the table. . But since plenty of strangers have swept off with mine.then wondered why i was upset ,then became jealous?? . meh, if I were out there now I really wouldn't care as long as they could prove to me their relationship is ending and why. Edited 09-Mar-23 17:18pm

In my school days I did not have many girl friends, either in my area or at school. I have always done my own research in regard to the men in my life and did not use friends for a ruling on the desirability of my male choices.

It takes many varieties of men and women to make the world go around good evil happy sad vengeful or just ignorant of what thete actions do to others. I put all that in because it takes 2 to tango no one party is to blame. Be thankful your friend did it in font of you and not behind your back.

Sorry I'm a male I do not understand

They feel safe because they don't want a commitment,or marriage.I was never aware of a"sisters" code it was common decency not to "poach"another womans man

Never had or knew of a sisters' club so I never had this sort of problem in the first place.

Lust

We believe this is due to jealous insecurities and competitiveness... and quite possibly those that pursue others love interests and husbands may be Narcissists

Happen to me a couple of times, the sister hood thing goes out the window, forgive forget and move on. Becomes more different when it’s a family member that crosses the line. But again forgive forget and move on there’s more to life than losers, better to find out now

Never happened to me.

Ive not really had much to do with a sisters code. Was more of a tom boy that had a few friends who were girls but tended to hang out with the guys (less drama), and then was the only girl in my family - all brothers and cousins where all boys. I dont know if maybe it's the challenge, thrill of the chase, the freedom that they dont have to be committed to anyone and won't get themselves hurt - who knows. Theres men who do the same as well, go after women in committed relationships.

She was probably brought up to know she was beautiful, and she most likely learned from a young age to use this to her advantage. It may also have made her feel powerful and in control, and boosted her self esteem and her perception of being popular. From my experience, girls like her become everybodies 'darling', but sadly no-ones sweetheart.

Unsure

Sisters club? Now i find out!

there are some things you just don't do,, like you wouldn't take a dog called [shark] to the beach, I guess some relationships are like algebra you look at your x and wonder y

No experience of a 'Sisters Club'. I went to a all male high school, so maybe my life experiences are different from those who went to a Co-ed school? Yes, I am married with two adult kids.

This has nothing to do with whatever the “sisters code” is. It’s simply a matter of having respect for people in general and doing the right thing.

Where have all these numbers come from after my name ? Does anyone know please ?

I've never grew up with a sister club thing, I've only heard it mentioned on the TV in the last few years

I have cheated, not proud of that. He wasn't married but in a committed relationship. Jealousy, they have what you want. It was a very short lived affair and I wouldn't do it again. Grass is always greener but then reality hits and you finally work out it isn't but you have only hurt your self and others whom were involved. It does take 2 to cheat, if men were happy they wouldn't feel the need too especially if they get what they want at home which when a man cheats he obviously is looking for a bit on the side as well and I am not talking for all men of course. Most men are happy with what they have and don't wonder. Look with out touching. Not every one is happy in a relationship, may look good from the out side. Finally I am remarried happily and we know about each others pasts and we don't judge each other. Judgement can be harsh and unwarranted some times.

Totally agree, with the sisters' club code. Those men/women in relationships are out of bounds. Sometimes cheating spouses will say that their relationship has ended when it hasn't. A relationship based on lying and deciept would be very unhealthy.

It's downright mean and nasty to go after other people's mates. If you're interested in someone taken, you have to wait until that relationship falls apart by itself, failing that there are plenty of fish in the sea.

from a male point of view,all i can say is once i started wearing my wedding ring i would get advances from a lot more women,personally i think its a case of trying to get what you cant have and a lot of women see it as a challenge,and no,ive remained faithful to my wife

never had a sisters club, but have never hit on or accepted invite from men in another relationship-that's just wrong!!

Never had a sisters club sorry

Eve once again partaking of the forbidden fruit...wanting what they want but should not have....It did not end well but it is probably a rush for her in the meantime. She is not interested in the men per se just the feeling/satisfaction from the pursuit. I would say that sister never intended to keep the code in the first place but rather used the rest of you to find the men for her conquests. You inadvertently pimped for her!

They used to be called sluts.

Insecurity, lack of morals

no morals

Lesbians, maybe?

Self centered female it's all about them and have no scruples at all.

She will live a life of being used and losing friends. Very sad

Insecurity, jealousy, just being nasty cows!

Maybe she feels she has something to prove to herself. That she can get any man she goes after. Internally, she could be insecure. Perhaps she was never taught the girl code, but it should be obvious that she's wrong. Maybe she doesn't really want to commit so she knows it's safe to date married men because it will never go anywhere. It sounds like jealous or insecurity to me or fear of commitment.

Hormones, competition, think that they have to prove that they are more attractive than others around them. (They are also very insecure, mentally).

Please Decode, I did not know there was such a Club/Code.Edited 09-Mar-23 07:54am

It's the same reason some men will sleep with any women that will let them regardless of looks or relationship status

never make a pretty woman your wife, as the song goes.

Same reason as why some women "have to be in a relationship" : any man as long as they have one, Kudos to you for not including in your list one of the most annoying "off limits" one: "I saw him first". This is ludicrous as nobody is in a relationship with said man and nor has man expressed interest in any of you (much less the one that "saw him first"). I agree, you don't go after men in relationships BUT men should take some responsibility too by not seeking relationships while they are in one. I really hate it when women are blamed for being the cause of the breakdown or the extra marital affair when, if the man did not seek out another relationship, it would not happen. Unless you have an open marriage or agree to "not care" if your partner has one or two, then isn't it better that the relationship ends instead of continues on a lie? As for the women who go after men when they are taken, do they not think that these men are just as likely to cheat on them since they are willing to cheat on a current partner? Once a liar, always a liar.

That is a millions of years old thing. Some women still think all males in the cave are theirs.

I dont know anything about sister code never heard about it

Never heard of this before

Code? Never heard of it

There's a code?

I don't know about sister code is because I don't talk to none of my girl's friends from high school.

Some women and men just don’t care. They want what they want. Later, perhaps wonder why? Some even say they did not mean it, it just happened! Either way, the deed is done. Further down the road, maybe they do regret it? Hopefully! Life lesson.

It’s the thrill of having something or someone that is someone else’s mate or property. Human nature

I've never heard the term "sisters' club code" but there will always be people of either sex who want anything out of bounds.

The same reason why certain men will cheat on their wives. The marriage code should've been harder to break.

some women just like to get it on,, it's called life 🙂

Can't get their own men.

Insecurity.

I was saying security and jealousy

no idea

No idea but I have had it happen to me quite often and with my ex husband. I am not sure they just want one upmanship on you or they feel they need to try and see if they can get him away from you etc. I wiped the women who did this and divorced my husband. Happy now with no man and good girlfriends.

I've never heard of a sister's club code...some women just want to steal other women's men....its a power thing I think.... and the prettier the girl the better the target...that is true Edited 09-Mar-23 02:00am

Low self-esteem.

I have had a couple of friends like that through out my life, always after the married man or the guy in a relationship. Never understood it and probably never will ?? lol