Do you think that the title mum or dad is something that needs to be earned? Just because you have a kid that is biologically yours doesn't mean you deserve to be called a mum or a dad?! I believe that those titles need to be earned. And you are only a mum or a dad if you step up and are actually involved in your childs life all the time. Not just when it is convenient to you or when you can be bothered to be a parent!