Why does showing love require making sacrifices?

02-Apr-24 08:55am
pam rae
TY Zebra....
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02-Apr-24 05:22am
just me- NZ
I think making reasonable sacrifices are a part of life, not just in relationships.
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01-Apr-24 12:19pm
pam rae
ty again Zebra, happy easter
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01-Apr-24 03:51am
pam rae
HI Zebra, HAVE A NICE DAY..
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01-Apr-24 02:33am
Ram 1380429
To fulfill the inner desire.
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31-Mar-24 22:38pm
Teri 1282723
I don't think sacrifice in a relationship should be a thing. If you feel like you're sacrificing, I don't think you're going to be happy for very long. For me, making a sacrifice in a relationship would be very rare. For instance, going to a funeral for a friend of your spouse when you didn't really like that friend, but you're going to support your spouse through their pain. Sacrificing your own comfort to show support to them is good and the proper thing to do.
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31-Mar-24 22:37pm
Nancy 1486955
It is a matter of how well you both get along and who is willing to make a sacrifice
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31-Mar-24 22:09pm
Ellisqt
It isn’t always apparent to others that any sacrifice has been made until after the fact. Even then, some people have very short memories.
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31-Mar-24 19:57pm
Christine M 323842
Living with other people is annoying. Therefore, living with people always makes sacrifices, or compromises, on both sides.
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31-Mar-24 19:53pm
Mary M 329762
Take care of my father my husband das
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31-Mar-24 19:03pm
Edith v
To prove you can both give & take & consider each others needs unselfishly
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31-Mar-24 18:33pm
Dimitri T 100433
itis about give & take
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31-Mar-24 18:23pm
Beverly I
Love is unconditional No sacrifices. You both care and look after each other. It works both ways. If you really care for the other person, it's not hard to care. It should just come naturally.😀
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31-Mar-24 18:04pm
Catalina
It shouldn’t.
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31-Mar-24 17:35pm
Missy Wyld
its called compromise not sacrifice. bc we are not clones of each other, we do have diff values, opinions, preferences etc. sometimes we compromise if it is important to our loved ones.
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31-Mar-24 17:16pm
Grant 1393984
As long as the sacrifice goes both ways
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31-Mar-24 17:07pm
APB
making sacrifices over love mainly occur in movies...with little girls crying into hankies in the audience....those sort of films are called Heart warming....thats to warn any men watching to run away....not saying it doesn't happen...it is not a prerequisite (see I know long words)....you can make sacrifices for a whole range of reasons..like compassion..compassion makes the world go round...no-one can even agree on what love is.... Edited 31-Mar-24 17:10pm
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31-Mar-24 16:57pm
Christina L 88918
:D love is unconditional
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- 31-Mar-24 17:12pm
  APB
  just make sure to read the small print!....
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31-Mar-24 16:38pm
Daniel A 2
I have'nt got one. I don't really know Edited 31-Mar-24 16:39pm
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31-Mar-24 16:34pm
Pat C 618241
Sometimes, one or other of the partners has to be reminded what a partnership is all about. In some societies, father is not only the head of the house, he also claims to be the one who makes ALL the decisions.
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- 31-Mar-24 17:13pm
  APB
  yup...thats right Pat..been there
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31-Mar-24 15:55pm
Colin L 88398
I have yet to meet 2 people that want the same things in life.
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- 31-Mar-24 17:14pm
  APB
  Thank goodness you only need one Colin!
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31-Mar-24 15:48pm
writerrochelle
The Bible reads at John 15:13, "No one has love greater than this, that someone should surrender his soul (life) in behalf of his friends." At 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 the Bible tells us what love is, and what it is not. If we all followed Bible principles, there would be no hatred, no wars. At Colossians 3:14 the Bible reads, "But, besides all these things, clothe yourselves with love, for it is a perfect bond of union." Jesus Christ loved mankind so much, he died for us! And, in relationships, if everything the man does if for her, and everything the woman does is for him, they will have a happy, peaceful relationship filled with love! Compromise! ;-D
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- 31-Mar-24 17:16pm
  APB
  Have you read a book called "behold the man"?..it has won awards and is very good..please read this too
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31-Mar-24 15:38pm
Greg B 520364
Showing love is not a sacrifice, it's a love.
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31-Mar-24 15:01pm
Priscilla R 316016
If you truly love each other then it isn't a sacrifice at all. just loving someone wants you to do what is best for you both - that's love.
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31-Mar-24 14:48pm
Beryl M 1009442
sacrifice ---------->>>> control
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31-Mar-24 14:44pm
Glenyse H
Yes I am happy to make sacrifices in our relationship as wife and do not need any benefits in return
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31-Mar-24 14:28pm
Sheree T
Absolutely agree with you. If you love each other it really isn't a sacrifice it's something you both do because you genuinely love each other. Edited 31-Mar-24 14:30pm
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31-Mar-24 14:18pm
Henrietta
Sometimes there is sacrifice in a relationship. You consider the feelings of the other person, & sometimes, even though you don't want to carry on doing something you would like a break from, you continue to do the thing that you would like to have a break from because you know that the other person would have nothing to do. I am writing about my husband & I. Every evening, we would play cards. I would like a break from this for at least one night a week when I could read a book, but I know he would be bored if I suggested this, so I play cards 24/7 to keep him happy. This is a sacrifice, but I do it because I love my husband. I hope this all makes sense.
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31-Mar-24 14:03pm
Ek M
Does it, what about if the gains outweigh the supposed sacrifices
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31-Mar-24 13:43pm
Karen S 841350
Tricky question, in relationships there is give and take. equality is important here, it shouldn't be you sacrificing all the time. sometimes love means not making the sacrifice for those you love,sometimes your partner needs to sort it out themselves and you, being a support person not the fixer upper
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31-Mar-24 13:34pm
JANET R 328390
I say be very careful. While I PARTLY agree with this ..... I am also seeing CONTROL CONTROL. In a good relationship - YOU ACCEPT EACH OTHER AS THEY ARE. The minute you expect someone to change "to fit in with you" .... that is control - and something to do with "if you loved me .. you would ..." If they loved YOU - they would accept you as you are!!! To be quite honest - about 90 percent of relationships I see are about CONTROL. Edited 31-Mar-24 13:35pm
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31-Mar-24 13:20pm
IdentifyAs
Great! You been in a one sided relationship where they suck you dry?
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- 31-Mar-24 17:17pm
  APB
  that could a good thing Nigel...
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- 31-Mar-24 19:12pm
  IdentifyAsAPB
  only if you are rude..I mean emotionally and financially.
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31-Mar-24 12:54pm
Dusan 1329983
It reflects a commitment outside of oneself, thus leading to giving of oneself, which can be seen as sacrifice.
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31-Mar-24 12:47pm
Phyrephly
There are different types of Love. Eros love - revolves around romance physical intimacy and essentially, sex. Filial love - love of family, or friendship love, how you feel about a close friend, and Agape love - Christ's Sacrifice on Good Friday (albeit, essentially His Entire 33 - year Life), is a prime example of this one. Soldiers' or police officers' sacrifice would be another example. Sacrificial love to save, help another. Most deeper relationships would encompass at least 2 of these, in attitude, if not example. I guess if these are in proportion to each other, and reciprocal, then the relationship - which ever one it is - is good, and beneficial to both parties.
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31-Mar-24 12:17pm
Paul J 94868
I thought offering sacrifices was illegal these days...
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- 31-Mar-24 17:18pm
  APB
  I think its OK still with Satanism
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31-Mar-24 12:12pm
Wendy Q
I don't think one should sacrifice anything, if someone loves you for you, then that's all you need.
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- 31-Mar-24 17:19pm
  APB
  I'm with Wendy (not literally...I just agree with her)
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31-Mar-24 11:10am
Natalie 1450069
But it really doesn't require sacrificing..incorrect!!
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31-Mar-24 11:07am
Jenny L 591463
This is a hard one because your love for each other shouldn't be a competition about who can sacrifice the most. I know people have lost family, children, friends all for the sake of a relationship. Be careful because one day you could look back and regret your choices. I do believe it can make a relationship stronger if it is done in the right way. I wasted 12 years with the wrong person who made my life a living hell, took the children and used them to control others so I have a clear conscience because I never did that and I would never do that to any one else. It saddens me that people can and do get away with it but they know who they are and only they can justify it to themselves how ever wrong it is in other people's eyes.
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31-Mar-24 10:52am
Kristina L 134251
Nope you’re wrong
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- 31-Mar-24 13:37pm
  JANET R 328390
  I pretty well agree with you....
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31-Mar-24 10:48am
Lee King
It does not involve making sacrifices, it only requires consideration for the other person within the relationship.
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- 31-Mar-24 13:38pm
  JANET R 328390
  Totally agree.
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- 31-Mar-24 17:20pm
  APB
  that was a good one Rave
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- 31-Mar-24 21:26pm
  Lee King
  A very rare moment of thought, while waiting for the beer truck to turn up at the bar. All good in Bali cobber.
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31-Mar-24 10:43am
KaysNSW
I reckon I wasted 7 years of my life making sacrifices and breaking myself in every way to please a man who I thought would be the one who was actually going to prove that love family and happiness were real and good after every part of my life was broken from birth just to find out he had a whole other thing going on with my so called best friend and everyone else in the world knew for years except me and his response was he never loved me I was just convenient and a great Cook and he knew I would do anything for him 😭. It's now been almost 4 years since we ended and I got rid of everything and everyone in my life have no friends or anything else and to afraid to even try anything to start a life again now and every few months or so he has to try and get back into my life but pretty sure it's just his way of making sure I don't or can't move forward. Love is Evol
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- 31-Mar-24 13:17pm
  Phyrephly
  so sorry you had to experience that! Must have been very difficult for you. But you sound like you made it this far, and survived him; just don't let him control you from afar. Move on, and let him know you've done just that. Next time he attempts contact, diss him. You're still here, so you've shown yourself that you don't need him to survive. No one needs to take that gaslighting-type crap from anyone! Love is always wanting to best for the other person, whether it's your child, husband/wife, next door neighbor, or down-and-outer you slipped a $5.00 note to. Your cooking prowess may be a good place to start searching for ways to love others, and get some back in return. Look to maybe get a job or volunteer at say, Meals-on-Wheels type places, or soup kitchens, or homeless shelters, or fast food/restaurants/delicatessens. Or even, if you live near families with kids, look to start something like a cooking co-op - people getting together for batch meal-cooking marathons for their families, say once a month or something like that. Just stay strong, but open to possibilities!
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- 31-Mar-24 16:31pm
  Danielle R 478487
  Sounds like he was a narcissistic a**hole. Completely understandable how you feel. Maybe one day you may be able to trust people again enough to let them into your life. I hope so. It's a lonely life on your own. There is a narcissistic survivors group online. All people who have been through relationships that have destroyed their lives and rebuilt them again,in time. Please consider checking it out.
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- 31-Mar-24 17:22pm
  APB
  Hey we love you..forget about the asshole!!
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31-Mar-24 10:37am
Shawn B 1061185
I first have to ask "Who's doing the sacrificing?" You (I presume) may be doing it all. If you alone are "making sacrifices" then there is something wrong with your relationship power situation. Love requires compromise not capitulation. Maybe I'm overstepping here, why do you think you have to sacrifice anything. In my mind real love is all about communication (did you tell your playmate that you are sacrificing?) and compromise (oh, I'm sorry, but I put your most hated vegetable out for dinner. I won't do that again.), and flexibility (if you don't like the food, then you can have something else). If you really think you have to sacrifice anything (unless it's bad like smoking or drinking too much) then it's time to adjust the power relationship into your favour, or is that another sacrifice? Anyway, as long as you're asking, I'd be looking for a relationship where there is no such thing as 'sacrifice'.
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- 31-Mar-24 13:40pm
  JANET R 328390
  ME TOO. Sacrifice is always about "control".........
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31-Mar-24 10:28am
Sindhu 1439439
Not all ways of showing love is a sacrifice
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- 31-Mar-24 13:41pm
  JANET R 328390
  Absolutely NO WAY OF SHOWING "real love" is a sacrifice - otherwise it is not love at all.
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31-Mar-24 10:16am
Paul B 522937
i see love asgiving and taking if we both care about each other it wil be equal so know one looses
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31-Mar-24 10:15am
doug p 631197
Why does it need sacrifices??? I've always just shown my love by providing, by being silly sometimes, by being romantic, it's just what I do. It also doesn't have to cost a lot of money. Though by doing all that doesn't mean you get love. I know because I did do all that and treated her like a princess yet she chose to walk out on our family. Communication is 10% what is said, written or done and 90% how it is interpreted. Love is nice but it's not the be all to end all.
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- 31-Mar-24 10:58am
  BLACK LIVES MATTER
  Hi doug p 631197. GREAT LINE - 'Love is nice but it's not the be all to end all'.
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31-Mar-24 09:47am
Don T 805693
Showing love does not require making sacrifices but making sacrifices does, or maybe can, show love. Not quite the same thing.
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31-Mar-24 09:14am
Bugalugs
Sacrifice implies Martyrdom, or much worse, that now almost universally popular claim people seem to love that they are a Victim. Realtionships are, as JudyT 470524 below says, more about Give and Take, to which I would add Compromise. I do something for someone or they do something for me is not a sacrifice, we do it to help, make things easier for the other person or for both of you.Edited 31-Mar-24 09:31am
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31-Mar-24 09:10am
Rachelle 1472965
If you have to make a sacrifice to love someone, then your partner is not a good person. It should be 50/50 , no matter what. To sacrifice to be love looks more like a narcissist relationship.
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31-Mar-24 08:56am
Judy T 470524
I don't see it as making sacrifices, relationships are more about give & take.
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31-Mar-24 08:53am
pam rae
HI lin r
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31-Mar-24 08:51am
Robert T 597718
no sacrigices please Natalia why suffer
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31-Mar-24 08:49am
Jania S
LOVE does not require SACRIFICES, two people make compromises, in LOVE and in everyday life. IF you think you are making sacrifices and it is so hard, better look within.
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31-Mar-24 08:47am
Lawrence 1262145
I don't know it depends I guess what you are sacrificing. Do you have to do something that makes you really really uncomfortable, like a sexual act you don't want to do.?
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31-Mar-24 08:30am
Dsmiles2U
I do not see it as sacrifice makes much happier
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31-Mar-24 08:29am
Svetlana K
Most people coming into relationship are already mature and have their lives and dislikes…to make it work both need to compromise if they want it to last.
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31-Mar-24 08:19am
Andrew C 287196
Sacrifice, in the sense of compromising or making choices of one thing over another, happens in pretty much everything. You want to watch the sport, so you have to miss the drama show on the other channel. You want to live in a rural area, so you have to live with the ambulance taking longer to get there. etc., etc. "Sacrifices", in the sense of killing your pet rabbit to appease a God, went out of fashion in most places centuries ago. 😉Edited 31-Mar-24 08:21am
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- 31-Mar-24 08:52am
  Robert T 597718
  Well said as always Andrew
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31-Mar-24 08:14am
Lyn A.
Sacrifice-no should not happen give and take yes, but it needs to be from both sides. You are each your own person keep that alive to keep your relationship alive
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31-Mar-24 08:10am
Lorne M
Sacrifice? I prefer to think of it as "respectful mutual accommodation," though I understand how it's meant here.Edited 31-Mar-24 08:12am
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31-Mar-24 08:07am
Danielle R 478487
Sacrifices to me is a very strong word. I prefer compromising . When the channels of communication are open you should be able to compromise on some issues. Some are Sacrifices, like moving to a different part of the world,leaving friends and family. Or leaving work to care for your sick loved one. In the end,you have to decide what makes you happier within yourself. Then it's not really a sacrifice at all. It's just a change,but done out of love.
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31-Mar-24 07:20am
Ram 1380429
To convince the opposite sex.
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31-Mar-24 06:59am
Claude H
If your marriage is great sacrifices are not required. Working together is not a hassle
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- 31-Mar-24 07:41am
  lin r
  AGREE
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31-Mar-24 06:46am
Luv ur
To truly love is to put another's needs, feelings, and righteous desires before our own. That is sacrifice......to put someone else (be it your spouse, family member, friends, and yes, even strangers) before ourselves. That REQUIRES sacrifice for most of us, as we put ourselves in a position of taking second seat to the person you are loving and sacrificing for. LOVE IS AN ACTION WORD. It is not something you say and "Pow", it is. No, it's shown and to show it, you are generally in a position of self-sacrifice. It's a beautiful concept and one lacking far too much in our homes, outside circles and society in general. Saying "I love you" to another is quite empty if you don't SHOW IT THROUGH ACTION. Some may say "I don't need to DO something for someone and sacrifice of myself to truly love them". But love is felt, through someone's actions and not JUST because they heard it. Words tend to be cheap if not backed by acts of love, or serving the person you are loving. Service is key.
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- 31-Mar-24 06:48am
  Luv ur
  Sorry so long. I apologize if I was repetitive above in my first comments.
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31-Mar-24 06:39am
JANN R
You should not have to make sacrifices if its the right person for you and you love one another there is no need and you have a happy loving marriage thats what it comes down to
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31-Mar-24 06:30am
Linda B 907610
If you're with the right person, there should be no sacrifices. I don't feel I have sacrificed anything to be with my husband. We are both very happy with our life together but it is the second marriage for both of us so we may have made our sacrifices in the past to get to this point.
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31-Mar-24 06:21am
Tupulua S
My old teacher said to us You can not bake your cake and eat by yourself, because you will never finish it, and you will throw it away. Are you willing to give that cake away for someone else to enjoy? If not then I think your relationship will not work out for you. Everything we do requires sacrefice, so that we can be happy and peaceful in spirit and mind
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31-Mar-24 06:18am
Sarah 1325723
Yes
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31-Mar-24 06:07am
Chosen
As I love myself it is never a problem.
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31-Mar-24 06:03am
Lee b 979050
What kind if sacrifices the ritual type?. The spiritual type? The financial type? Or the honey I dont have a head ache type? Once you sacrifice something you show you're weak which leads to more sacrifices and eventually a there's no turning back situation. No retreat no surrender. If you must do anything you can compromise do a deal never sacrifice. Love is an aberration it fades once all the excitement has gone then theres lots of things you can do golf walk the dog pub etc
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31-Mar-24 05:41am
kristian s 513441
You have to choose your relationships with others based on close friends, family, marries and etc...
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31-Mar-24 05:35am
Maria B 89860
Why call it sacrafices, why not just call it going with the flow as the tiede will turn your way eventually. Just don't let it turn into a tidal way, let things ebb along at a steady pace,
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31-Mar-24 05:31am
Kiwi Jo
Because it's not all about me. There's someone else to consider.
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- 31-Mar-24 13:48pm
  JANET R 328390
  Yes - totally agree - AS LONG AS YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY PERSON CONSIDERING. Both consider each other - but where I see 90 percent failure. It is nearly always one person doing all the considering..............................
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31-Mar-24 05:28am
Frank K 593543
Love is also caring and worrying about the person you love.
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31-Mar-24 05:03am
Val 1394045
It does make a stronger bond
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31-Mar-24 04:24am
Barbara H 1073102
Compromise not sacrifice
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- 31-Mar-24 06:06am
  Asesh S
  Very true and correctly said
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- 31-Mar-24 13:49pm
  JANET R 328390
  Yes - as long as BOTH doing it.
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31-Mar-24 04:20am
Roy R 1009866
We should all make sacrifices to have a strong relationship but it cannot be one sided each partner must sacrifice at some time. It isn't necessary to keep count, each side will know without bringing it up.
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31-Mar-24 04:00am
Darla T
I think you are thinking too much on this topic.
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- 31-Mar-24 07:05am
  Luv ur
  With all due respect, I don't think we spend enough time considering the connection between love and sacrifice. The divorce rate wouldn't have surpassed intact marriages in the U.S. decades ago if we practiced sacrificing as a demonstration of love. (The U.S. is certainly not alone, either). Words are cheap. Ask anyone who hears it, but never sees evidence of it. That's my take on it. We all feel differently about it. And that's ok.Edited 31-Mar-24 07:07am
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- 01-Apr-24 23:32pm
  Darla TLuv ur
  I do not disagree with you. I take the perspective that if you love, the thought of sacrifice is minimal but rather you just do it naturally...it comes naturally as a result of the love. The fact that one has to weigh the issue, ie, think about it makes we wonder how much love is really there, which as you rightfully point out, is the path to divorce. In some of those cases perhaps, real love was not being practiced from which the sacrifices would naturally flow. I would say our differences are not that great but quite similar. Edited 01-Apr-24 23:33pm
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31-Mar-24 03:03am
Barbara H 1175857
making sacrifices everyday no matter if spouse or children always make sacrifices
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31-Mar-24 02:58am
pam rae
IT SHOULDEN'T ON SACRIFICES,JUST LOVE BEYOND
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31-Mar-24 02:37am
Mayhem
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31-Mar-24 02:17am
Samiuella L
No comment
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31-Mar-24 01:41am
BLACK LIVES MATTER
In my opinion you are confusing sacrifices involving LOVE with endless myths revolving around LOVE! MYTH of the better half - that there is only one person who is predestined or ideal for you - aka your SOULMATE! MYTH of exclusiveness - that you can love only one person at a time! MYTH of fidelity - that you must satisfy all of your romantic and erotic desires/dreams with only your partner. MYTH of jealousy - that jealousy is a true sign of true love! MYTH of ease - that if it's right - marriage is the end goal - then marriage should be easy!Edited 31-Mar-24 06:34am
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31-Mar-24 01:34am
Linda 3
Some days you will be giving your all, the next day maybe the other person will, and sometimes it is 50-50 at the same time. It depends on the situation. It all equals out if you truly care for and love the other person.
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31-Mar-24 00:51am
Tania NSW
Equal give and take….. listening understanding and compromising with compassion and love
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31-Mar-24 00:47am
Denise C (Qld)
Love is Patient Love is Kind ....and so on in Corinthians
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31-Mar-24 00:23am
Dianne 1442893
The love we give away is the only love we keep." is often attributed to Elbert Hubbard
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31-Mar-24 00:16am
Linda C
I do not think sacrifices make a good relationship. Honesty, Respect, Thoughtfulness, Caring etc. show it but if you have to sacrifice something to get another's love then something is very wrong.
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31-Mar-24 00:09am
david j t
give&take
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31-Mar-24 00:06am
mike B 1066235
TO ME THAT IS A YES BUT IT MUST GO BOTH WAYS NOT JUST YOU GOOD LUCK 😇 MIKE
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